It's wonderful to fall in love
And not so great falling out of love...

When thinking about writing love stories and romance, can taking conflicts and romantic relationship upheavals from real life make a story stronger and more believable? 


If you are experiencing relationship conflict and are trying to work through it, this can be a catalyst for your character's interaction too. 

Sometimes you and your partner will find compromises and solutions to your problems and can work out ways to make your relationship better. And sometimes not.

So what if you have tried and tried again and still it isn't working and you both know it's time to move on. 

It's never easy it never is. Breaking up is hard. Moving on can be even harder especially if you are inside a long term relationship. There are a myriad of broken hearts scattered everywhere. So remember you are not alone.

I'm a big advocate of trying harder and longer to make love stay, but sometimes it just isn't going to work no matter what you do or try.  

So if it is over and there is nothing left to do but leave each other, then do it. Even if you say we only need to be apart for a while...

There is a freedom in letting go, even if it is tinged with sadness and hurt. And as you move farther on a healing and growing inside yourself can happen as time passes. 

Sometimes this apart time may bring you closer again. Sometimes not. So don't count on that. Rather, be with your own feelings your own self and your processes. 

The good side is as a writer, those things you endured can start to come through your writing and make your stories even stronger, deeper and more realistic. 

There is a whole new you just waiting to be free. And so are your characters too!


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